Wife Swap Education 101
Last night, I caught an episode of Wife Swap on Lifetime. I find it entertaining to watch two families from opposite sides of the country try to adapt to a different way of living for a week. I’d never really given much thought to the show, until now. I wondered, why do the families swap wives? Then, it hit me. It is true that the home is the wife’s domain, and she is in charge (CEO if you will) of the household. It’s genius to send the woman of the house out to learn some new techniques to bring back and implement in her own home.
A lot of times, because of the way we were raised and where we come from, we often become very controlling and stubborn about how we run our households. It’s healthy to be open minded and allow some changes to come in. Sometimes, we learn that our families appreciate some change. The formula for Wife Swap is completely different families come together, judge each other based on how the other lives, get defensive, argue. Then, the wife takes over and turns the other family’s life upside down. The family resists and they fight more. Finally, they all realize that they actually enjoy some of the things they’ve learned and were forced to do. The families agree that they can alter some aspects of their lives, loosen up or straighten up, and allow some changes to occur in their homes.
Outside of the culture shock that a lot of the participants face, the show is a great way to assess how we run our own homes. Sure, I laugh at the people crying because a temporary change has been forced upon them, but I still think about the things that I can take away and use for my family. Some of the things I feel should have been a part of my life to make things easier. Other things are interesting and something worth trying.
My Takeaways from Wife Swap
1. Split chores evenly between my husband and myself.
I realized that I take on a lot at home and at work. I would like to spend more time enjoying my home and family, and one way to do that is to finish my daily chores sooner. I understand that it will take some time to get my husband on board, but I’ll ease him into it and add one thing at a time.
2. Implement Dine-out nights during the week
I spend a lot of time budgeting, and I don’t like to spend one cent outside of the budget, but life happens. Sometimes, we work until it’s too late to go home and prepare dinner. So, we end up eating fast food. Not good. I have learned to work eating out (for real) into our budget. Instead of buying groceries that will last us two weeks. I purchase groceries for the week, and plan to eat at a restaurant on those long work days. This way, I’m not overspending on food.
3. Set aside ME time.
Because we spend so much time with our students and working on our music, we often find ourselves with just enough time to watch a recorded show on the DVR while we eat something greasy from a paper bag, and then head to bed prepared to do it all again the next day. I learned that’s the quickest way to being stressed out. Now, I force myself to stop all housework by 8:30 PM and give myself some time. If the night runs long, I reward myself the next day by quitting early, putting housework on the back burner, and enjoying a bubble bath, baking, writing, or some other thing that makes me feel relaxed. Woosah!
Have you picked up things from television and used them in your home?