Don’t Let Others’ Opinions Dictate Your Life Decisions
We live in a world where people are always asking someone else what they think. For example, women ask each other if they like what they’re wearing, or what they should do with their hair. We ask people for advice about our relationships and jobs. The truth is, when it comes to making decisions that only you will have to live with, it is best to consult yourself.
If you find that you are having doubts about making a certain decision, that is your inner counselor saying that it may not be the right time to make that decision. When we allow others to tell us what we should or shouldn’t do in our lives, we open ourselves up to doing something that we may not be ready to do. Hopefully, things will not go awry, because that will bring up resentment toward the person who advised you to do whatever it was. Psalms 1 says “Blessed is the man who walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly…” We are too quick to take the advice of someone who isn’t always qualified to give it. Think about it, how often do women take advice about their relationships from other women who are single or who have had several failed relationships? All they can offer is their experience and what not to do. Instead, they give lengthy advice on how to do things. Or sometimes, they advise women to leave, when that might not be the best thing for them to do.
Be careful with who you confide in and take advice from. Not everyone has your best interest at heart. Most importantly, not everyone has to live your life. You make the ultimate call. If you’re not sure about what to do, you can table it, and think on it a bit longer until you have made up your mind. Some things aren’t as important. We can get advice on fashion and beauty from each other. That is usually just a conversation starter anyway. However, when it comes to making life decisions, you shouldn’t feel pressured into doing or not doing something.
By nature, we try to please others. It is only when we have reached a point of being tired of running into less than desirable situations that we stop caring so much about what others think and make our own decisions. After years of talking too much, I learned my lesson. I only talk about certain situations with people who can help me. Other than that, I make my own decisions and disregard unsolicited advice from other people. If you make your own decision and it turns out less than desirable, you can learn from it, make changes, and move on. Block out all of the voices that try to dictate your life, choose your counsel carefully, and live your best life.